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The bedroom looked like that

TW: Sex work, sexuality, drugs.

I never talk in detail about my clients in my writing I do on this website because their anonymity is important for me and I care so much about them. Therefore, in this story, there will be no way of identifying the man or the woman and that I will even modify some details to assure this. This is the story of my weirdest booking in four years of sex work.

This took place when I was still working in an agency in Montreal. I received a text from the booker telling me that a couple wanted me for a threesome at their five-star hotel. I was so excited! I never was a high-volume sex worker, I had maybe one or two clients per week. During my time with the agency, I could even spend a week with zero clients. A threesome was a bit more money than a one-on-one session, plus my bisexuality ass was absolutely pleased with having a woman choosing me to realize her fantasies. I dressed up (I was in my pajamas, chances were I was eating pasta) and put on a pretty face before I jumped in the Uber in direction of one of the luxurious Montreal’s downtown hotels. …


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Unicorn Hunting Done Right: Why Couples Should Hire Sex Workers

There is a phenomenon on dating apps called the unicorn hunting, or heterosexual couples looking for a bisexual woman to join occasionally their bedroom and spice things up. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the fantasy but how it translates into real life is where ethical issues arise. You see, when a bisexual woman receives more propositions for spicing things up in a couple’s bedroom (usually with the woman being the spokesperson) than messages from singles really looking for an actual connection with them, it makes them feel more objectified than desired. For some bisexual women, this fantasy of joining a couple for one or two threesomes might also be interesting but for most of them, there is nothing less sexy than feeling use as a sex object instead of being seen and desire as the person they are. There are a lot of excellent essays from LGBTQ+ writers about how this is problematic. …


CW: I’m using women and men to identify the genders of my clientele as my trans and non-binary clientele have different considerations and issues than written below. I am therefore talking about cis-men and cis-women in this text but it doesn’t mean I am forgetting about my queer folks, I am just not talking about you in this writing

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I’ve been lucky enough to have a few women clients during my career as a sex worker in Montreal. It’s quite a privilege because, as you would guess, women are quite rare clients in the sex work industry. Usually, if we have a woman client, it will be part of a couple that wants a unicorn to spice things up in their bedroom. As couples are still not our biggest clientele, they are still more common than solo women (sex work is usually aimed at men clients). I’ve been attracting jealousy with my popularity with women from my colleagues. To be frank, I still cannot shut up about it so I get where those side-eyes come from. I never EVER brag about how many clients I had, especially as I know how it can be rough to reach both ends for providers and rubbing your success in the face of marginalized people is inconsiderate. Except for women. If I had a woman client, I would scream about it (SCREAM) on the rooftops of any platform I could have access to. …


Sex work criminalization is highly misogynistic

TW: abuse, sex work, glass ceiling, sex trafficking, patriarchy, bad english haha

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Being banned from crossing borders because your face is recognized is not protecting anyone from sex trafficking. Being stigmatized in public space because someone recognized you from Pornhub and being denied jobs because of that is not protecting anyone from sex trafficking. Being cut from family pictures because you’ve been outed as a sex worker doesn’t protect anyone from sex trafficking. Being unable to call 911 after being assaulted is not protecting anyone from sex trafficking.

Stop believing what politicians are telling you about sex trafficking and sex work. Criminalization of sex work is about controlling and punishing women who take control of their own bodies in protest to a patriarchal capitalism society. …


How I Became a Sex Worker

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TW: mention of the word r*pe, sex work, child sexuality, BDSM, kinks.

The first time I showed my genitals to other humans in exchange of goods was at age 4. I was extremely excited about discovering my body and wanted to show it to my kindergarten friends. I ask them to come with me in a corner of the room and pull my pants in front of me to give them a less than satisfying look at what they were hiding. Of course, our laughter attracted the attention of other kids that wanted to be part of the fun. I exchanged a quick look inside my pants for an exclusive use of the most popular toy of the kindergarten for the rest of the day. …

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Rosie Sparkles

Feminist sex worker based in Montreal. Writes about sex work, sexuality and related subjects.

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